“About 6-months ago, my sister asked me to write something to read during her wedding. I was honored that she trusted me with something so personal for her big day. But equally, I have never been so nervous to write something in my life. I put it off for the longest time; delaying until inspiration hit me. Then I did what I always do...research the hell out of it and tie it all together with a bit of emotional flare.”
The Etymology Of Love
Four letters.
One syllable.
Universally understood across all languages known to humanity for over five thousand years. It embodies both a noun—a profound feeling of deep affection—and a verb—to cherish or take great pleasure in. It transcends beyond conscious beings, extending its reach to encompass adoration for objects like a cozy sweater or a captivating television show. The ancient Greeks recognized seven distinct forms of this emotion, spanning from the passionate fervor of Romance (Eros) to the warm bonds of Friendship (Philia). It is an emotion deeply ingrained in our humanity; fossils reveal that the survival of our Jurassic ancestors relied upon strong familial connections. It is an extraordinary force encoded in our very DNA, driving the essence of life, and universally sought from the earliest stages of our existence.
And what is this multifaceted emotion?
Have you guessed it yet?
It is love—a seemingly simple word, yet astonishingly intricate and personal.
Throughout history, expressions of love have woven their way through the fabric of human existence, finding their place in the oldest known text—the Bible. Each passage, lesson, and story within the scriptures bears an undercurrent that traces back to the fundamental need for love, teaching believers that selflessness and sacrifice pave the way to salvation. Love, being such a universal theme, surpasses the realm of religion, and it is no wonder that grandiose—or LOUD—acts in its’ name have shaped culture as we know it. Consider "the face that launched a thousand ships," the love affair of Paris and Helen of Troy that ignited the Trojan War. Antony and Cleopatra, whose love shook the foundations of the ancient Roman empire. Henry VIII’s obsession with Anne Boleyn drove him to extremes—like breaking from Catholicism, creating his own religion and divorce all so he could marry her. Even the chaotic and law-defying love story of Bonnie and Clyde created its own archetype of romantic relationships. Furthermore, love's impact on literature and entertainment is undeniable. Characters such as Romeo and Juliet, Catherine and Heathcliff, Lancelot and Guinevere, and Jay Gatsby and Daisy all fell victim to their consuming and tragic loves. For these characters and historical figures, proclaiming their unwavering devotion required shouting from the mountaintops, fearlessly announcing their intentions and the world be damned if anyone stood in its way.
Yet, love is not always characterized by fiery and impetuous acts of passion that drive individuals to forsake all else. No, the most powerful form of love often manifests in the serene and intimate moments shared between two souls. These expressions are not boastful or seeking a reaction; they are QUIET and, like the very essence of love itself, simple. It is knowing precisely how your partner prefers their coffee or tea. It is recognizing when someone craves affection and showering them with a thousand kisses before the day's end. It is being there to guide them away from the metaphorical precipice when their world is in turmoil. It is cherishing the memories tied to sixty years of New Year's dimes, safely kept in a dresser drawer. It is the selfless act of waking up early after a snowstorm to unearth your four daughters' cars from thirteen inches of snow, ensuring they won't be late for work. It is an unwavering belief that "where there is great love, there are always miracles."
Today, in the presence of your dearest friends and family, you stand before one another, affirming your unwavering commitment and wholehearted devotion. On this momentous day, I wish you a lifetime filled with both the resounding echoes of grand gestures and the gentle whispers of quiet love. May this love reaffirm the vows you make today and bring solace during your darkest moments.